Women in church leadership

1 Tim. 2:11-15
    Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. [12] But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. [13] For Adam was first formed, then Eve. [14] And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. [15] Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.

I am going to step on some toes, because there are many women and some men who take this and find a way to twist this to mean something completely different.  I find it utterly amusing when women take offense to these verses, and attempt to throw the whole ordeal under the bus through a complete change of circumstances instead of taking the verse in context. 
In Paul's time, the preaching would go on and, if a woman (usually a wife) had a question about the sermon, she would go ask her husband.  The problem came about because the women tended to disrupt the preaching from others who were listening (remember, there were no microphones or the like way back then, so just imagine),  Paul must have heard about this since he mentioned it in his letter to Timothy.  Also note  Timothy was being groomed (or already was) a pastor and leader for that church.  So Paul wanted to put an end to this.
Next came the usurping of authority.  This Greek word, authenteo, is only mentioned once throughout the New Testament.  This denotes the general authority that was ordained by God to man.  Its translation is:
one who acts on his own authority, exercise dominion over another, dominate
What Paul is implying is that he does not want woman to take dominion in authority in a role she is not called to be in.  This includes pastoral ministries in a public setting.  Now I know where some of this is going, so I am going to nip this in the bud.  Does this mean women can't have ANY place in ministry or even authority?  Of course not.  Women are great nurturers, therefore they can teach.  Intercessors, administration, apostles, evangelists, even Philip's four daughters were prophetesses.  But the one place they cannot be is in a spiritual authority above man, especially her husband.  Ahab gave up his authority to his wife Jezebel, and she ran with it as far as she could.
Right at the beginning, Adam was created first, then Eve.  Paul later mentioned that it was Eve who was deceived, not Adam.  It isn't to say Adam wasn't at fault, for he gave easily to Eve about eating the fruit, which makes him guilty, but in a different way, for he wasn't deceived by the serpent, but Eve.  Later, God says that it is her desire toward her husband, but he will rule over her (Genesis 3:16).  In simple words, it is in the will of the woman to take authority, but God calls the woman to be under the protection of a man.  As a young daughter, her spiritual protection is her father.  If she marries, it transfers to her husband.  If her husband dies and she is still young enough to bare children, Paul instructs them to remarry.  If they are widows and no longer can bear children, the church becomes their covering.  The only criteria that is not fully mentioned is when her parents pass away before she possibly marries.  I will note that God does call men and women to remain single, so in this case her father remains her covering until he passes away, then it goes to the church.
Many women are appalled that Paul mentions about "being saved (delivered) through childbearing."  Does Paul saying that is all women worth is just creating babies?   No, he is bringing forth the joy that women have, but men cannot, creating and carrying new life.  As I said before, there are many areas of ministry which women can be major parts of, but taking a position of authority within the church that God calls a man is wrong.  Considering that the husband is the authority of the family, this command structure does not disappear when they walk in a church. 
Case in point.  A woman becomes a pastor of a church, while her husband is not.  At home, he assumes authority, but when they go to church, who has authority over who?  As a pastor, she can assume this over her husband (remember Genesis 3:16) but his family authority has not been taken away when he walks in the building.  Now we have conflicting positions.  God is a God of order, not confusion.
Women can be in all ministries except one - authority in public ministry in the church.  Can they be worship leaders?  Sure.  How about Sunday school? No problemo here.  Home Bible studies are not an issue, either, but a pastoral position of authority is usurping, and assuming, a position that God has not called her.  All Christian should enjoy where God has called them to be, not where they WANT to be.  I prefer being in God's will with His blessing than being in another place, and assuming we have it.  According to God's structure, is safer for a woman to be under true subjection and spiritual covering than assume it is hers to have. 
Blessings.
Nellie